Discovering Your Purpose

Confucius says “Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.” Confucius says “Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.”

Why are we here? What am I supposed to do with my life? These are questions we all ask ourselves at one point or another. My goal is to help you connect to your true self and your innate purpose – to move away from conventional thinking and create a life definition that works for you. Purpose is the reason why we are motivated to change, and live a life of greatness. If you often find yourself setting goals, and then falling down at the first sign of difficulty (I know I have… many times) it is usually because you do not have enough clear reasons why you want to achieve this goal. If the ‘why’ is big enough, you will find a way. It is essential to discover what really matters to you, so you can leave all your negativity behind. There are many articles and books about ‘finding your purpose’. The idea that you have to ‘find’ something assumes that it is missing. That thought suggests that you will find something external that will make you happy. How would you feel if I said, “You already know exactly what you are supposed to do with your life?”

The purpose you seek is lying dormant just waiting to be awakened. You have a deep calling based on your unique gifts and skills. The only thing stopping you is your disconnect from your true spirit and unconscious desires. You need to look within to discover your true purpose and know how to be truly happy. First, you need to make a decision to be happy. Ask yourself, am I ready for happiness? Do I really want to be happy? Do I believe that happiness is possible? If not, then you may need to work on some of your limiting beliefs before trying to uncover your purpose and be happy. As you trust yourself more, the answers will become clearer. There is no need to panic or feel pressure. These answers will present themselves clearly as you become more open to your instincts and listening to your subconscious. To help you with this process, I have provided two exercises.

The first exercise is simple and not time consuming. Get a sheet of paper and draw a line down the centre to divide it into two columns. On the left write passions, and on the right opportunities. On the left make a list of all the things in life that bring you joy and that you love doing. If you could be anything, do anything or have anything what would you be, do or have? Don’t get side tracked by the “how.” The more expansive the list, the better. Most people don’t know what they are really passionate about. Allow yourself to dream with no limits, anything is possible. If you are stuck for ideas you can list anything you have ever been interested in, that you may have given up for lack of time or resources. These can be a great place for inspiration. On the right you can begin to brainstorm ideas of how you can live these passions each and every day. They can be small things such as going for a walk, reading a book, giving yourself relaxing time, or larger things such as get a new job, go for a holiday, learn a new language. Using this format will help you visualise ways to change your life immediately so you are being more true to your purpose.

Passion is the feeling you get when you think about something or someone you truly love. It’s what ‘turns you on’, what you would fight for, and what ‘gets you going’. It is your inspiration and excitement, and the thing that gets you out of bed every day. Passion is so important because it provides us with motivation to pursue our dreams. Everything is so much easier when you are chasing your passions and moving closer to the ‘real you’. It is not about what you ‘should’ do or what ‘should’ matter, your obligations or commitments to others. It is about being truly selfish, understanding your own needs and desires and putting yourself first. By putting yourself first, you will be in a better place to serve others, and provide for those you love. What’s more, you will feel better while doing it, immediately.

Another great way to discover your passion is to design your ideal day. Again, there are no limits and you need to be as detailed as possible. Using all of your senses helps communicate your wants to your unconscious mind. Close your eyes and visualise your ideal day. If this was your last day on earth, and you could have the perfect day, what does it look like? Who are you with? What are you doing? Where are you? Discover your whole day from the time you get up until you go to sleep. Remember to include all areas of your life, as discussed on my article about vision. Imagine the sights, smells, sounds, tastes and feelings all around you. Take some time to really absorb the wonderful feelings you experience, knowing everything is as it should be. When you are ready, you need to record these ideas, being as creative as possible, to provide an anchor to your unconscious. You may choose to write a description of your experience, draw, paint, or make a collage. Use a medium that you enjoy. This needs to be placed somewhere easily accessible, so you can view it every day, or at least pull it out for motivation and inspiration when challenges arise.

The final exercise can be the most challenging, and ultimately the most rewarding. You must be willing to trust your internal voice completely and wholly, and believe that it wants what is best for you. You must believe that you already know your purpose, and have all the resources within you to uncover it. Get a blank sheet of paper, write ‘what is my true purpose in life?’ and start brainstorming. This should take at least 20 minutes. The first answers will be what you have been conditioned to believe is important in life, or what rationality dictates, which is not necessarily true to you. When you get stuck and want to give up or take a break, or think ‘this is stupid’ – perfect! You’re nearly there. Keep persevering and you will have a breakthrough shortly. This is the moment where you are delving deeper into your subconscious to discover what really matters to you and you only. You will probably end up with over 100 sentences before you find the one that fits. The ‘false’ answers will feel like thoughts, the ‘true’ answer will feel like it has come from somewhere else entirely. When you finally have the answer, you should feel overwhelmed with emotion. You may want to cry, laugh, scream or sigh, or maybe all of these at once. That is perfectly normal. Here was my final answer: To live my life to the fullest, learning, laughing, living, and loving completely and wholly. Serving others and leaving the world a better place.

Now that you have a clear purpose, what are you going to do with that information? If you continue along the path you are currently on, where will you end up? Over the next few weeks I will continue to provide you with resources to assist you to implement changes in your life, to be happier and more fulfilled, as you move towards a truly happy life – a life of your own design.

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